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The People Pleaser: A Depth Psychological Perspective

Nov 14 min read

The People Pleaser: A Depth Psychological Perspective

I'm a recovering "people pleaser". I write about my battle with "people pleasing" in my new book Green Flags: How To Be The Kind of...

Quique Autrey

Aug 277 min read

What We Lose When We Grow

“Explore how personal growth mirrors the natural process of shedding old identities"

Slow Productivity: Meaningful Work At a Sustainable Pace

Quique Autrey

Jul 109 min read

Slow Productivity: Meaningful Work At a Sustainable Pace

A few weeks ago, while perusing a table at Fabled Bookstore & Cafe, I came across Cal Newport's latest book, Slow Productivity: The Lost...

The Terror and Exhilaration of Trusting Yourself

Quique Autrey

Feb 255 min read

The Terror and Exhilaration of Trusting Yourself

I recently finished Paul J. Leslie's wonderful book Perceptions and Possibilities: Strategic and Solution-Oriented Approaches to Working...

Resisting Bad Faith: Bringing Sartre into Therapy

Quique Autrey

Feb 17 min read

Resisting Bad Faith: Bringing Sartre into Therapy

Jean-Paul Sartre (1905-1980) was a renowned philosopher, novelist, playwright and political activist. Sartre is one of the key figures in...

Outside the Circle: In Defense of Opacity & Inactivity

Quique Autrey

Jan 3012 min read

Outside the Circle: In Defense of Opacity & Inactivity

Plot Summary: Spoiler Alert The Circle (2017) is a dystopian science-fiction thriller based on Dave Egger's 2013 book of the same name....

The Key as Gift: A Relational Perspective on Iron John

Quique Autrey

Jan 238 min read

The Key as Gift: A Relational Perspective on Iron John

Savage Man vs Wild Man I'm looking forward to a conversation with Kent Dobson on the sacred masculine. Our conversation will be centered...

In Pursuit of Meaningful Living: 3 Contributing Factors

Quique Autrey

Jan 207 min read

In Pursuit of Meaningful Living: 3 Contributing Factors

In a recent podcast episode, Courtney Perry shared a story about her childhood that really struck a chord. Whenever asked what she wanted...

Understanding the Fine Line: Reflection vs. Rumination

Quique Autrey

Jan 1610 min read

Understanding the Fine Line: Reflection vs. Rumination

Socrates famously said, "the unexamined life is not worth living." As an introvert and 4 on the Enneagram, I thrive when I have plenty...

Metacognitive Therapy In The Burnout Society

Quique Autrey

Jan 97 min read

Metacognitive Therapy In The Burnout Society

The Burnout Society We live in what Korean philosopher Byung-Chul Han calls the burnout society. Many of us feel overwhelmed, cognitively...

Events Don't Hurt Us, But Our Views of Them Can

Quique Autrey

Jan 11 min read

Events Don't Hurt Us, But Our Views of Them Can

Things themselves don't hurt or hinder us. Nor do other people. How we view these things is another matter. It is our attitudes and...

Quique Autrey

Jan 15 min read

Being at Home in the World

Later this week, I'm hoping to speak to my friend Phuc Luu about his in-depth analysis of Sam Esmail's Netflix hit Leave The World...

Quique Autrey

Dec 26, 20231 min read

I'm Going to Start Living Like a Mystic

poem by Edward Hirsch Today I am pulling on a green wool sweater and walking across the park in a dusky snowfall. The trees stand like...

Why Social Connection is Crucial for Men's Overall Well-Being

Quique Autrey

Nov 9, 20234 min read

Why Social Connection is Crucial for Men's Overall Well-Being

According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, the rate of suicide in the US is highest for middle-aged white men. In 2021,...

3 Simple Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Spouse Every Day

Quique Autrey

Nov 7, 20233 min read

3 Simple Ways to Show Appreciation to Your Spouse Every Day

Relationships are not perfect. A marriage is two imperfect individuals trying to build a life together. According to Dan Wile, "when...

Into the Labyrinth: Unknowing & Experimentation in Psychotherapy

Quique Autrey

Aug 28, 20238 min read

Into the Labyrinth: Unknowing & Experimentation in Psychotherapy

He enters a labyrinth, he multiplies by a thousand the dangers already inherent in the very act of living, not the least of which is the...

Dependent Masculinity: Why Men Need Others

Quique Autrey

Oct 17, 20225 min read

Dependent Masculinity: Why Men Need Others

I've been thinking about the philosophy of Stoicism since my conversation with Steven Gambardella. We discussed his excellent article on...

Eternal Adolescence: Young Men & The Need For Mentorship

Quique Autrey

Sep 28, 20225 min read

Eternal Adolescence: Young Men & The Need For Mentorship

In the latest Therapy For Guys episode, I asked James Derkits what worries him about our current world. He responded that young men's...

Feminist Therapy For Men?: Discovering True Empowerment

Quique Autrey

Sep 20, 20224 min read

Feminist Therapy For Men?: Discovering True Empowerment

In a recent Therapy For Guys episode, I have a conversation with feminist psychologist Dr. Laura Brown. Dr. Brown is a true leader in the...

The Obstacle is the Way: Finding Satisfaction in Dissatisfaction

Quique Autrey

Sep 13, 20225 min read

The Obstacle is the Way: Finding Satisfaction in Dissatisfaction

In my latest Therapy For Guys podcast, I interviewed Dr. Todd McGowan about his book, Emancipation After Hegel: Achieving a Contradictory...